Originally Posted by bippy17
Thanks JayB. Wow. What you said made so much sense and really struck me to open up to things I would have never thought of so thanks again.
She always said I looked at things on the negative side. She always said I (me) was never happy and complaining about something or someone. Maybe I can change my outlook on things and stop the negativity. I know I can and will.
She is crying to me today (in an email) saying "I am sick, and sad, and tired, and sorry" her exact words. How do I answer that? Do I stay strong and not reply and make it like I'm not jumping at the slightest thing she sends me? I want to, but think alot of this is phycological and I need to ignore it to get better. Am I wrong?? So damm lost. ughhh
Complaining and negativity really strains the marriage. I broke my neck 4 years ago, but I do my best NOT to complain about the daily severe pain. Its not easy, but I try to put myself in others shoes. I do my best looking for the positive things in life even though I feel trapped in my own body.
My husband never complains about anything, ever. I often wonder how he does it. He is the most positive person and this is what helps me stay positive. I couldn't do it without my husband. If he was negative all the time, I don't think I could stay.
Both my husband and I had horrible marriages prior to us getting married. I had a child previously and he did not. My ex is abusive and unfaithful. I put that all behind me and moved on a very long time ago. Neither one of us bring up the past. We both look forward towards the future, even though it's difficult at times.