BrokenFrag

Draconis, both of us have put on weight over the years. And while it may have caused some of the problems, I don't think it is at the root cause.

When it comes down to it, she wants to be able to look into my eyes during sex and feel a connection. I do too, and I know we haven't had that for a long time. The biggest problem is that we didn't know it was a problem because we were such good friends and it hid how bad the marriage was getting. Now, she thinks their is no recourse. It would be more work to make the marriage successful than it would be to divorce and try again with someone else. She knows what we have, and she knows that their might not be anything out there for her, but she just can't muster up the strength of character to try for us.

I have hit the gym for the last week and a half now, and I feel better, and already am starting to look better. The problem is that it will take time to get fit again like I was in college. I don't know if I have that time with my wife. She feels no need to fix herself, no need to fix our marriage, even though she will be very sad that it broke. I don't understand why she is willing to accept all that.