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juls · 04-01-2008, 08:03 AM

ahubby, you need to make her sit down with you an talk. What she is doing is controling the only aspect of your marriage she can and that is sex. It often amazes me to hear, well what are you doing to help out around the house or maybe she isn't getting from you.

Now, I would assume since you are posting here you have probably tried all of the "well if I cuddle more she will want to", "if I take out the trash maybe she will want to"..

When in all actuality it is HER sexuality. And her withholding the one basic thing in your realtionship that keeps you from being only roommates is wrong.

I would also ask, is she on hormonal bitrth control. HBC is KNOWN to cause libido issues and depression in women. It is something to look into.

I am married with 4 children. To the SAME man for 15 yrs. When we first married I withheld sex for a long time. Saying to my husband "your such a jerk is that the only thing on your mind"...Well yeah it is if your not getting it...I know this now.

And see another thing is I hate when people say "it's just sex"..No it's not just sex, it is intimacy it is passion and it is desire for one another...Yes sex is a need within a marriage ..If your not having sex with your husband or wife you are basicaklly roommates..Thats it..

04-01-2008, 08:03 AM	#13 (permalink)
juls Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 49	Re: Almost sexless marriage ahubby, you need to make her sit down with you an talk. What she is doing is controling the only aspect of your marriage she can and that is sex. It often amazes me to hear, well what are you doing to help out around the house or maybe she isn't getting from you. Now, I would assume since you are posting here you have probably tried all of the "well if I cuddle more she will want to", "if I take out the trash maybe she will want to".. When in all actuality it is HER sexuality. And her withholding the one basic thing in your realtionship that keeps you from being only roommates is wrong. I would also ask, is she on hormonal bitrth control. HBC is KNOWN to cause libido issues and depression in women. It is something to look into. I am married with 4 children. To the SAME man for 15 yrs. When we first married I withheld sex for a long time. Saying to my husband "your such a jerk is that the only thing on your mind"...Well yeah it is if your not getting it...I know this now. And see another thing is I hate when people say "it's just sex"..No it's not just sex, it is intimacy it is passion and it is desire for one another...Yes sex is a need within a marriage ..If your not having sex with your husband or wife you are basicaklly roommates..Thats it..