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Old 03-22-2012, 03:01 PM   #15 (permalink)
rogergrant
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Default Re: Husband doesn't want to "spoil" me... so he can't think of me in a sexual way--he

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Originally Posted by Hicks View Post
The thing is, this is his problem to fix and not your problem to fix.
What you have to do is communicate that this is about what you need, and not about what he needs. You need to tell him to get whatever help or work out whatever is causing him not to be sexual with you or you will leave him.

Now, some other comments. 1. You are too young to be married. 2. You should have figured this out in dating phase or engagement phase, becuase the purpose of that part of your relationship is to determine if you are compatable. 3. Most men want to have sex with virtually all women in their life except their relatives. If he considers his wife in the same way as his mother, he really needs therapy.

Good luck to you.

I can assure you that a marriage this young can work out, and I really don't understand people's need to bring this up as some sort of non-generalizable reality check. This poster is married, so too late. Unless you are advocating that she get divorced because she was married young its an irrelevant point. I can tell you from personal experience (about 15 years worth) that young relationships can continue and survive in a healthy fashion.
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