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Originally Posted by GAsoccerman
wow, first of all you are lucky she is still around. Secondly, what did you gain from cheating and why did you? Did you really gain anything?
Anyway, I would take it slow, call off the engagement, start a new. Dating that is, She will need time to trust you again, if she ever can, it will be a long painful process.
Really sorry to hear this,
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Thank you for replying to my post, I appreciate your help. I truely am lucky that she is willing to work things out and I am so glad that she is. Why did I cheat? Well obviously it is a long story but the short of it is that for a long time I felt neglected. Basically I didn't get the attention that I needed and eventually I didn't get enough affection or sex. I found someone who paid attention to me and I strayed. It was really stupid and I should have worked harder and talked about how I felt. I took the easy way out and now I understand how stupid it was.
What did I gain? Well I gained a lot of knowledge. I realized how much I love my girl because when I lost her I felt like I had lost a piece of myself. I also learned that open communication could have saved us a lot of heart ache and going forward I am going to be totally open and honest. I've learned a lot about myself and about what needs to change in order to make things work. I'm choosing to focus on the postive rather than the negative and try and learn from my mistakes. I'm going to see a councelor about fixing myself and then we are going to get some couples couceling.
Thank you guys for the help and if there are any other thoughts or advice you would like to share please feel free.
Thank you again