juls

Hmm, I have some experience here. For a two year time period I had buried myself in a bottle of whiskey. I was bad. Then I stopped one day and never drank again.

In that 2 yr time period I was awful. Abusive. I was/am an alcoholic.

So about 3 yrs after I had finally stopped and never drank again I got tired of it's all my fault because of my actions. I blew one day.

I explained(yelled) just because I made mistakes in my past it does not by any means mean you get to hold them over my head for the rest of my life, it does not by any means mean you are allowed to treat me like **** because of it.

I made my mistakes, I saw them I changed them and have never reverted back, so I do deserve the respect, I do deserve being treated good.

See cause like you I wonder for a long time if this was just my punishment, did I deserve this because of my drinking binge. NO. In the beginning yeas but 2 yrs later, no.

You need to sit down with him and explain to him you cannot change the past, you cannot undo what you did, but you can however continue(like you have been) showing him that this is exactly what it is PAST. He should by now be able to leave the past there..

See in the first 10 yrs of our marriage it was filled with both of us cheating on each other, me withholding sex, me drinking for a time period then BOOM, we almost ended..When we separated we thought this is for the best. Well little did we know we couldn't live without each other.

Here we are on yr 16(just about) happy and in love just like we were in our honeymoon phase. It CAN work. But you both have to be willing to change things and you both have to work on them.