| | Re: How to fall in love with your husband again?
You *must* share these feelings with your husband--he needs to know what he is up against. Yes, it will be hard for him, but not as hard as finding out you are having an affair (which is likely at some point, if this issue isn't resolved), or finding out you've decided to divorce him and there is no turning back. Fear of causing him pain and failing to tell him will simply be the mistake that starts a negative chain of events.
You haven't had an affair, and you are not going to pursue this incipient emotional affair (right?). But you are so vulnerable that it's just likely to happen again if you don't take action now.
Work together to resolve the problems. Get some marriage counseling, because it will help--and get it before you have bigger problems. You are on the cusp of no return, so don't delay. Good luck.