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lovesherman · 03-28-2012, 08:25 AM

Wow, MEM, I guess this thread has not gone the way you had hoped! Now I see what you meant, but I did not understand from your original post.

I am puzzled, however, by why you think that TAM posters do not offer sympathy to men in low sex marriages. I think of the fiance who was worried that the frequency of sex had gone down. Everyone told him to run. He said he was surprised; he thought the men would tell him to cheat, and the women would call him a pig for wanting sex too much.

As for the Catherine bashing, I totally get where she is coming from. We do not hear many messages from news stories, movies, or songs that indicate that men get emotional needs met through sex. Men in general don't want to seem "needy," so they do not express tender feelings regarding sex.

When RJD posted about meeting his wife's needs resulting in great sex, he got a bunch of people saying lighten up, sex is just for screwing.

What advice do you think we should offer such men? The usual suggestions are meet her needs or do the emotional 180. What else should we say?

03-28-2012, 08:25 AM	#32 (permalink)
lovesherman Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 2,055	Re: An open request from one of the men Wow, MEM, I guess this thread has not gone the way you had hoped! Now I see what you meant, but I did not understand from your original post. I am puzzled, however, by why you think that TAM posters do not offer sympathy to men in low sex marriages. I think of the fiance who was worried that the frequency of sex had gone down. Everyone told him to run. He said he was surprised; he thought the men would tell him to cheat, and the women would call him a pig for wanting sex too much. As for the Catherine bashing, I totally get where she is coming from. We do not hear many messages from news stories, movies, or songs that indicate that men get emotional needs met through sex. Men in general don't want to seem "needy," so they do not express tender feelings regarding sex. When RJD posted about meeting his wife's needs resulting in great sex, he got a bunch of people saying lighten up, sex is just for screwing. What advice do you think we should offer such men? The usual suggestions are meet her needs or do the emotional 180. What else should we say?