Originally Posted by Catherine602

AFEH
Sometimes you hit the mark so squarely that I think you have a ghost writer up your sleeve. How can so unreasonable a man come up with such a perceptive observation. :scratch head:

This is the second time that you mentioned my husband and his dying feelings for me and the very real possibility that he will leave me.

He is not your wife and I am not you and our relationship is not like the one you and your ex had. I am working on my demons; you are blinded by yours.

My suggestion AFEH. Your ex did not leave because there was anything wrong with you. She turned against you and attempted to alienate your children. That is a reflection on her not you.

But she triumphs over you daily because you retain bitterness and you are living in a very dark place. Why? She is winning round after round and you sit like a beaten man. It is not too late for you to get your azz together and come out fighting .... for yourself.

I am convinced that you can do it. You have been in this pity party long enough. Take your sense of justice, morality and fine powers of perception and turn them to your good now.

I am certain you are capable of coming out of this, judging from the glimpses of the real you that peeks out occasionally.

if you regained your sense of hope for the future, you set an example to your sons about what it is to be a man. The command of himself and his environment are the hallmarks of being male, are they not?

Then why do you show your sons otherwise? They see a man who has allowed himself to be bested by a woman who set out to wound him. Why don't you show them what men are really made of.
Be well.