Originally Posted by MEM11363
So from now on when someone,an or woman posts about a lack of sex, let's call it what it is: their partner isn't meeting their EMOTIONAL needs. And by repeatedly rejecting them without honest explanation, their partner is abusing them emotionally.
Originally Posted by Deejo
Yes ... it's just you.
Let's reassert ...
The premise of the thread has nothing to do with women being the 'bad guy' in sexless relationships.
The premise is that regardless of gender ... if one partner is striving to improve things emotionally, or sexually, and the other partner is ignorant to those overtures or simply has no desire to change the dynamic ... and continue to reject, ignore, or blame-shift ... then they are being emotionally abusive.
That's the premise. And if we leave gender bias out of it, it seems pretty hard to argue with, wouldn't you agree?
In that I take it that MEM is saying that for men, sex IS an emotional need. In that it is not a want but a need.
And that's his key message and something he's trying to get some form of agreement on or recognition of.
And as such there is a gender bias. And a great big one at that!