Beechnut

Now if he is looking at porn and withholding from you, then yes it is wrong and you have every right to be hurt and emotional about it.
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Yeah, sorry about that, I should have made it clearer. The sex did dry up there for a while, a long while. Now I know that I should have tried harder to find out why. So when I found out about the porn, and looked back at our non sex life, well now you know how I felt. Our sex life is great, much better and with every week even better than before. It’s almost like we had to get comfortable with each other again. Anyway.....just one thing. I feel like I'm always the one to make a pass at him. A week went by and no advances from him, until finally I gave in and made the first move. This is not helping my confidence. I told him a while ago, just as nice as I could without coming at him with daggers that I was still kind of hurt, and that my confidence was shot. I didn't want to go on like that, afraid it would effect us is some way, and could he help. You know with little everyday affections. He thought for a few minutes, and then told me he thought I was right, he wasn't giving me any TLC and he would try to pay more attention to me. Great! Well guess what....no change. I still just get the good-bye kiss in the morning and the I'm home from work kiss. Both usually just a peck. No complements ever, He has never been big on that, but isn’t this a time when we try a little harder? Now, when I see that maybe the kids are getting on his nerves, he’s had a hard day at work, or we have a few minutes, the kids are playing outside, I'll hug on him, kiss him, flirt with him, its fun. He is receptive and responds to me, but never does this to me. Any thoughts?