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Originally Posted by Chopblock
"Try going without (REGULARLY) for a month or more like is the case in our marriage."
Bad idea dude -- once she gets used to having it less, you won't even get the "bad sex". How do I know that? 6 months and counting, thats how.
She has convinced HERSELF that something is wrong, and she isn't going to change her opinion until she is darn well ready. You can try and try and try. You can do all the housework, pay 100% of the bills, shower her with gifts, and all you'll end up doing is rewarding bad behavior.
All this "I'm not in the mood", I'm too tired" they are just excuses. I'm not saying people are never "not in the mood" or never "tired" but when you get the same routine 3 or 4 times in the row, you know its a lie.
Make peace with it because the odds are highly against it changing the way you want it to.
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Dang Chopblock, I feel your pain or rather the pain of my own is a lot like yours.
I tried the patiently waiting for sex and 1 month without quickly turned into 3 and she didn't even flinch. I've also tried being nice not a hard thing to do since it's in my nature to be that way anyway, but nope.
I have, like Chopblock here, have come to the conclusion that you just have to get yours, somewhere else, and stop expecting any magical sex to fall from the sky.
Just yesterday, my wifes best friend was telling my wife that her man keeps bugging her for sex and that she just ignores him, going as far as calling him to respond to a text he had sent her saying simply,"I need sex!" and her response she had to say in person was, "So, what do you want me to do about it."
I was just sitting there playing with our 15 month old baby boy giving them their hen time and my wife says "I'm doing the same thing to him, huh babe." The cold blooded bi_ch had the nerve to say, huh babe, like I would somehow laugh along with them or something.
I later asked her, do you guys seriously see what you do as a joke or take pride in making us go without for some reason?
She got all defensive and told me I always ask that same question, news to me because I have never said that to her before. Anyway, I asked her oh yeah, and so what is the answer then, to which she simply walk away.
LOOSER... I thought, I'll be glad to finally cheat on your selfish uncaring ass.