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morituri · 03-29-2012, 10:57 PM

Found this from Does Couples Counseling Really Work?.

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Couples Counseling

S= Suspends positive solutions from happening
U= Undermines understanding of the person you married
C= Closes off good communication between spouses
K= Knocks one spouse while defending the other
S= Scrambles issues so they appear unsolvable

S: Suspends Positive SolutionsCounselors dangle the possibility of hope, yet suspend that hope in limbo without ever delivering a real solution to your marriage.

U: Undermines UnderstandingCounselors throw a wrench into the works of marriage by encouraging you to talk about problems. This makes understanding each other impossible.

C: Closes Good CommunicationBecause of couples counseling’s continuous focus on problems, the ability to communicate in a balanced way is nonexistent.

K: Knocks One To Support The OtherOnce the couples counselor gets between two arguing spouses with no real solution, it is almost inevitable that one spouse will “ganged up on”.

S: Scrambles Issues So They Appear UnsolvableIn the middle of the turmoil between the two of you, your counselor asks questions about your feelings that leave you both more mixed up than when you first started.