major points to him....my ex would not get a vasectomy (he almost fainted when we got blood tests together before we got married) so I did get my tubes tied and have had female problems ever since
Just another spin on showing love to one another...the back of the book we read had a quiz that ranked how we felt loved (physical touch, acts of service, words, gifts, etc) so if he ranked something different it creates an opportunity to consciously cater to that...in other words, if you know your husband shows he loves you by acts of service (bringing you a drink, blanket) he would respond very well if you did those types of things for him and vice-versa. As far as sex, I don't think either of you are in the wrong, maybe just have different sex drives which can fluctuate from time to time. My husband and I are both quite active in that area right now, but there are times where the thought of a long drawn out foreplay session etc. just sounds like too much so we mix it up...sometimes just a quickie or one-sided deal. It's probably worth just talking to him about how often he would want it, ideally, and are there times when he does but doesn't have the energy for more than a quickie...maybe someone should invent some underwear like I used to have when I was young with the days of the week, but instead they say 'quickie' 'too darn tired today' 'ready to go all night' 'just please me' 'just please you'...lol i crack myself up...so neither spouse would have to worry about possible rejection if they initiate
