My husband goes on about the guys at work, how they talk, what they say, we just talk about it all, the funny, the dirty, the rumors, the crazy........ this one (who has an excellent marrage -never says a bad word about his wife like some of the others)....will say to the guys if he notices a good looking woman ...."Would you do her?" .... my husband tells me ...... he always replies "nope, I'm faithful". I'm pretty sure they have even called him p***y whipped before, or comments to that nature even.
I think after a while, they blew him off ...but yet maybe he is a little of a walking contradiction in this regard cause...he is the only husband there whose wife allows him to go to the strip club (we enjoyed togehter for a time).
He is very much a "One woman" type man. They say such men are driven by the hormones oxytocin & Vasopressin
= Attachment (the sense of calm, peace, and stability one feels with a long-term partner) . Vasopressin is the Monogomy hormone, those who lack it struggle to stay committed, even bond with their children.... easy to google these facts.
I just know my husband is high in these...he actions show it.... he is not high in Testosterone -which sometimes takes away from these .....those are the more sexually aggressive males with a tremendous unrelenting fantasy life -- and likely more comes out of their mouths about it too.
Taken from this thread here .....Listen to the men themselves....Is this the way men really think...?
I felt Unbelievable worded it best to how the majority of MEN think in these regards.... his quote on this thread here >>>
| Unbelievable said : I have already said that fixating on a woman (ie, imaging an actual sex act with her or fantasizing about her stripping) is a bit creepy and, of course, that is a choice. My point is that there is an immediate "yes", "no", "Maybe if I was drunk" sort of selection going on for the briefest of nanoseconds in every male brain (at least the straight ones). Having been male for nearly 50 years, I have been "listening" to "yep", "nope", "no way in hell", etc every day for at least 40 years. Of the thousands of guys I have worked and lived closely with, they all seem to have the same thing going on. Naturally, only a creton would attempt to act on those thoughts and one would be sort of a perv to dwell on the subject and create disgusting mental scenarios. I'm a Christian and I'm married. Neither experience rendered me blind or oblivious to my surroundings. The OP asked how men thought and I've given the most honest answer I can.
I asked my husband specifically what goes through his mind when he looks at other women.....
1st he looks at the face, this will not sound nice but he says "if she is dog faced, no sense in going any further", then he automatically puts them into baskets >>> "Doable" ..."Maybe".... or "ewwww NEVER". He said IF there is a CHOICE in these matters, it would be to LOOK AWAY immediately, but he admitted he doesn't want to do that, "it is no fun". Then here is his next mental thoughts within seconds "I love my wife, STD's, I love my kids , STD's" and that is the end of the fleeting fantasy.