Originally Posted by Jellybeans
Just because she cheated doesn't whitewash his neglect of her and the marriage. Again, I don't think anyone disagrees with the fact the cheating is on her. But to minimize the effect a constantly neglectful spouse has on a marriage is grossly irresponsible. It's ridiculous. Habitually neglecting your partner over they years is a sure way to lose them. Anyone who disagrees is smoking the good stuff or completely delusional.
What is completely delusional is anyone that instructs a spouse that has been cheated on to work on their marriage based on the truthfulness of the fog induced subjective opinions of a blame shifting, history reinventing, perfection seeking, cheating spouse, that loves someone else and just want you to be wrong.