Originally Posted by capricorngirl_99
I need to be more assertive with them for sure. I grew up in an environment where you do not dare question the parents or authority, even when the parents are in the wrong. If I ever tried to, I got spanked for it. But I need to be not so afraid of my parents and stand up to them. I am tired of their holier than thou attitude towards people. I am tired of them making my life a living hell, as well as my fiance's.
I'd rather grow up in a messy house where I knew I was loved, than in a house where I had to toe the line or not get love.
You will definitely have to TEACH your parents - since you are an adult, after all - how to treat you and your fiance. Any time they say such things, smile, take their hand, and say 'I love you, but I can't let you disrepect my fiance or his family. If you continue, I'll end up not wanting to be around you.' Then change the subject.