| | Re: What happens when your husband hates your son??
It sounds to me like you have an aggressive or abusive husband, if you all 'learned to make him happy.' Have you ever heard of the term 'walking on eggshells'?
Your son is an adult. If he wants to press charges, let him. If your husband wants to press charges, let him. It is NOT your job to intervene. If you will stop being everyone's crutch, they will learn to handle these issues as they should.
If you can afford it, take your other son and go to a hotel for a couple days. Let them work it out.