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Old 04-02-2012, 09:07 AM   #20 (permalink)
Brexin
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Default Re: Wife cheated while deployed and got pregnant.. Is there still hope?

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Originally Posted by morituri View Post
First off STOP using the word 'mistake' to excuse bad behavior on BOTH your parts. You are both adults who should know the difference between right and wrong, not children unaware of the consequences of their actions.

I'm not going to mince words but the truth is that you are both better off divorced. You BOTH have unresolved issues, you possibly have PTSD as a result of your experiences while on the field of combat, and your wife has validation issues that cause her to seek the attention and affection from other men. NONE of you should be in a committed relationship until AFTER you address and resolve your individual issues.

Love is not enough to make a marriage viable. Trust and respect are equally important. It only takes one of them missing from the marriage to cause it to eventually die. I'm afraid that in your situation, the trust and respect have gone out the window.

It's your life, your call. I hope you choose wisely.
I really respect and appreciate your answer, and your are right. We both probably shouldnt be in a relationship together

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In September of that year, after i told her she annoyed me, She stopped wearing her wedding rings and changed all of her email and facebook passwords because she was angry at me. I didnt find out until January because she posted on Facebook that she lost her wedding ring, and hoped someone had found it.
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