Thank you swedish
That was the answer i was looking for and it has asserted me to do just that.
I shouldnt let them worry me, only teach me what to look out for and know that by caring i should actually put my foot down and say i dont like it.
I have more confidence and self-esteem since we broke up and i have built it up in different ways by realising new strengths within me, so i have a good base to work from