Originally Posted by Entropy3000
I lke the WWBD. Egos aside folks, this is how I am about my marriage. If a guy is dialing back his boundaries because he feels he falls short of being his wife's Brad Pitt he might as well just hand her off to the next guy she fancies. You better be her Brad Effing Pitt. This is what your attitude has to be.
He's probably having the same problem I'm having...my husband understands the need for boundaries and he gets that I'm trying to protect the marriage; but he's only 80% convinced. The other 20% he's busy trying to make exceptions for women he's known a long time, or women he doesn't perceive as a threat. Where I see things like boundaries that MUST apply to all. He thinks that I see everyone out there as a potential threat. And maybe I do; but I'd rather be safe than sorry.
Sometimes I think he needs to see things from my perspective; he would need to see what a threatening male outsider really looked like and then he'd see where I'm coming from and take these things seriously, instead of just humouring me, going along with it just to keep the peace.