Originally Posted by shinyzebra

Porn.
People watch it, I get it.
I love a lot of porn myself too.

I want to discuss porn with my man. I want to say it is ok and both include it and let him watch it himself.
I have not accused or forced any confessions, but he denies watching it even though he does. I wish he wouldn't lie about it or this conversation would have already taken place in a lighthearted more casual manner.
I am often sexually frustrated and telling him this and pointing out his porn-watching together could be offensive and I see it turning him into defense mode and the convo being an argument instead of something helpful. I would also have to admit to snooping. haha. I know there are no excuses, but for a serious relationship to succeed I need to know the libido is there on his part as well. (We are not married yet but it doesn't seem that far out of the picture).
I have initiated the 'lets watch porn together' more than once. I find the awkwardness of what to watch both amusing and annoying as there can be hesitation revealing knowing one's way around sites and/or preferences. (Is there a random porn generating site out there for couples? there should be)
I thought including/enjoying it together a few times was a good place to start but seeing as he hasn't applauded me for it or taken any hints about it or initiated it himself I am not sure what to do now. Do I have to make this into a serious sit-down awkward conversation?

Suggestions? Thoughts? Comments? Stories?