| | Re: Is it better not to tell? Feeling conflicted.
Most of us here have been hurt by folks like you, a cheater. It is hard to know what to say, because we found out. I can't say whether it is better to have to use a GPS, phone, etc to find out like I did or have my WS confess. I will say this. My wife lied and lied and lied, even when caught and that dear, made it and makes it even more difficult.
Perhaps in the long run it would have been easier if my wife would have told me, then told me the entire truth, because I am still checking on what she has told me and it has been months, because of all the lies.
Tell him and when you do, tell him all the details, and then anwer all his questions without hesitation.
This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.”