I'm new to this forum and in a predicament I never thought I'd find myself in. I have had an affair for the last 8 months. I'm so ashamed that I've done this. Bottom line is my husband didn't measure up to my expectations and someone gave me the attention I was craving and I did an unjustifiable thing. Unfortunately, I fell in love with this guy. However, I am a Christian and not only do I know what I did was wrong, I don't believe in divorce. I'm praying for the feelings that I've had for this other guy to be feelings that I have for my husband. I've decided to end the affair even though we both have strong feelings. I know it's the right thing to do. The question is, although certainly not perfect, my husband didn't deserve this. Is it imperative that I tell him? I guess I feel like I deserve the guilt and hurt that comes with this. He just doesn't deserve to have his world ripped apart like that! What good would it do him? If I confess and repent to God, do I have to hurt him like that?
