| | Re: D-day from man's p.o.v.
There is no point in asking.
Often the expectation is that the one spouse that is causing consternation will provide us with the answers we so desperately crave.
And they can't ... or they won't...
Often they don't actually know what the hell they are doing. There is no certainty, no plan, simply that they don't like where they are and how things are going ... that's it.
My gut tells me there is someone else, simply by the nature of his answers. It's classic distancing language, and it is meant to validate his decision to leave ... and start something new.
My advice? Let it lie. Don't call him. Don't initiate anything. Don't ask about the divorce ... presuming you don't want it.
You have two choices in these circumstances;
Wait and see, or beat him to the punch.
Start the divorce process and make it clear to him how ugly, painful, and draining it will be ... but you need to be willing to fight and throw some punches. At that point, you will know how serious he is about 'not owing you anything'.
Is he the boy's father? You said 'my son' not 'our son'.
"I figured out they were serious eventually but was thinking it was ridiculous. I wanted to kick them in the balls." - Trenton