| | Re: Marriage at age 18?
My son and his girlfriend met when they went to college in their freshman year, they have been together since then and will likely get married. My son has been a functioning adult since he graduated from high school, I cut the apron strings and that was that and he was prepared. I don't see the need for him to date around, he doesn't either, and neither does his girlfriend or her parents. There is nothing wrong with knowing who you are attracted to and trusting your judgement if it's good. My son has taken steps to be fiscally responsible for his day to day expenses and also his college expenses after scholarships and student loans, work study and grants. He is in the National Guard and he has plans to go to graduate school after 4 year college. It never occured to me to tell him to date around, he has always had friends that are girls so it's not like he needs to know more about the opposite sex, he had several good relationships in high school and remains friendly with the young women but also has established healthy boundaries with them. So what exactly is the issue with getting married young? I just don't see it. It's based on some assumption of not knowing your heart. But if we have a young piano player who plays with feeling or a young actress who is gifted or a student who solves a big scientific problem we commend young genius, who is to say there are not young people who have genius in their hearts? Who are at peace with the world and with themselves. Not everyone has to find themselves, some people are themselves, there is nothing to 'find' but just life to live, one day at a time. They do not experience all this trauma that leads to bad decisions about relationships. They know what is good and what feels right and probably know what feels wrong too.