johnbriansmith

Thankyoufor your rely:

Maybe I wasn't completely clear. Not so much the abortions have effected me (maybe slightly, as for any man to hear that their partner had any sexual past is difficult at times - men like to think their partners were virgins before them lol), and nor her child. He really is a wonderful lad, and the father has never played a major role, actually not any role in fact.

I think it all started when she told me of these abortions, the first two when she was in her early 20s, partner was someone she was seeing not seriously at the time. Her other 2 with a serious partner who she was unhappy with at the time. She is 32, I'm 27.

I think when we spoke about these (I have to admit she was unwilling to do so as she didn't want to be judged) it started off a snowball effect. I started to realise she had a sexual past, and as you can appreciate, the thoughts are now getting out of control. She had a one night stand with my brother, and she is now with me, I think that drives me crazy, especially at family events. My brother is happy in a relationship now, but it drives me nuts to know they had been with each other. This is probably drives me insane the most, and not so much the abortions or the kid. So any advice would be greatly appreciated. If I keep thinking about it, should I end it?? Should I just get over it and move on??I love my girlfriend but I dont want to feel this way.

J