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Amplexor · 04-07-2008, 09:24 AM

I don’t know that you should tell him at this point. You are carrying a lot of guilt and emotional baggage at this point I’d try to get those under control before you tell your husband. The first thing is that you end the affair and have no contact with TOM forever. While he may have filled some voids in your life that your husband wasn’t fulfilling, he is a detriment to you reconnecting with your husband. Also since the affair went on for 8 months and you developed such strong feelings for him it is possible that this has jaded your opinion and views of your husband in some areas. Take time to work on your relationship, discuss with your husband what you are missing in your marriage and look to see if there are needs he has that you are not fulfilling. Since you are of a religious nature pray, for guidance and support. I find that that always helps me. Good luck

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Amplexor Moderator Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Midwest Posts: 714	Re: I cheated-- do I tell him? I don’t know that you should tell him at this point. You are carrying a lot of guilt and emotional baggage at this point I’d try to get those under control before you tell your husband. The first thing is that you end the affair and have no contact with TOM forever. While he may have filled some voids in your life that your husband wasn’t fulfilling, he is a detriment to you reconnecting with your husband. Also since the affair went on for 8 months and you developed such strong feelings for him it is possible that this has jaded your opinion and views of your husband in some areas. Take time to work on your relationship, discuss with your husband what you are missing in your marriage and look to see if there are needs he has that you are not fulfilling. Since you are of a religious nature pray, for guidance and support. I find that that always helps me. Good luck __________________ Amp Confidence – Love – Patience – Faith Are the tools to help heal a marriage.