Re: Question for you ladies
But fantasies, if they go unchecked can impact reality. Fantasies have no bad parts, but reality does. My wife fantasized about what life would be like if she weren't with me. Well, she fantasized about it enought, without ever talking to me about it, and she ended up having an emotional affair with a coworker. Our marriage will probably end because of it. No, she didn't have sex with, yes she had sex with me, but that became a problem for her in the end. She is in love with him, but she loves me. Now she is debating about whether or not she should find out if "in love" with him is more important (or appealing) to her than "loving" me. I never had a chance.
If your wife is doing something that troubles you, you MUST talk about it. It could be nothing, or it could be a warning sign. Either way, if you don't talk openly and honestly about everything, it will be very hard to have a happy healthy LONG-TERM relationship.
Sorry, I am not a lady, but I got burned by one, so inevitably, I have an opinion.
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