You cannot make this woman love you. She has demonstrated that she is unwilling to be a proper wife and participate in the marriage.
So you need to ask yourself what would be more painful:
1) Divorce her and experience some temporary, albeit humiliating, public scorn, or:
2) Remain married to this unfaithful shrew and let her make the rest of your life miserable.
In America we have a saying: sometimes you have to "bite the bullet
", meaning that there are times when you must experience a sharp, temporary pain in order to relieve yourself of a longer lasting, more debilitating pain.