Hey brokenfrag,
I been married 11 years dated my wife 7 prior to that, so same woman for 18 years.
Now I'm 38 currently, but during the whole time dating and married to my wife I have gone out with my buddies, to bars, clubs, etc Now I am a social person and get bored rather easily, So I will just strike up conversations and be goofy to an extent.
the reasons my friends would go with me because I ahd a habbit of "breaking the ice" with many women, because I am a natural flirt. While I ahve never cheated on my wife, I always found it easy to meet women.
What do women like? Confidence and funny/sweet.
no need to impress, just talk about everyday things.
One time I was at a bar and we had a beautiful female bar tender and I was there with my buddy, So a little small chat I said to her, Hey did you know I was a famous model? ( I am average looking BTW) Her curiousiness was aroused, She replied "oh really" and I was like yep, I am well known in the modeling world, She then said, Well how come I never seen you in magazines or on TV? I siad, you have dear, you just don't know it, she replied oh really? I am like yep, you see I am a world famous "sock" model, I ahve the best looking feet this side of the mississippi....she then realized I was joking and laughed her head off and we got free drinks.
You see laughter and just being nice helps, just talk to them.
Do you ahve any female friends that your wife does not know that could help you out? play along for you?
Also what about your wife going to the bar and sitting there and you come up and you hit on her?? like she was a stranger? that could be a turn on for her.
try new things....