BrokenFrag

Thank you all for your replies.

I have intentionally never flirted with women because I feel that would be disrespecful to my wife. When I am out with her, I give her my full attention.

Unfortunately, because of this, I am horribly out of practice. I do have a very good sense of humor and can get a laugh out of just about anyone (although I have to admit, I don't think I could ever pull off the sock model joke. that was brilliant), but I have never done it specifically to flirt.

Unfortunately, I don't dance. I think I might be ok, but I definitely don't have the confidence to go out and dance by myself. I have a buddy who is a DJ and has been quite successful in the Washington DC club scene. I might work with him to get some pointers.

It is tough to find the natural confidence to flirt when there is so much pressure on me to be successful. If I were single and just going out to have fun, I do think it would come pretty naturally to me. But since I am doing it to try to save my marriage (how weird is that?) I may put too much pressure on myself.

I don't have any "wing" girls that I can rely on because of my insistance on not developing friendships with women (to avoid doing what my wife ended up doing to me).

My sister might be the closest thing, and she might actually be the best one because she is good looking, several years younger (and has some pretty darn good looking friends). Unfortunately, she is in law school some 3 hours away from me and has ZERO time to go out.

Oh well. Just about everything you all said, I already kind of figured. I just have to get out there and start practicing and getting comfortable. Maybe I will get lucky and find a replacement for my wife! Just kidding. Kind of.