Husband Name Change
My wife and I have been together for 7 years and we have three children together. A couple of days before we got married she asked that I change my name; she was dropping her maiden name and taking mine, so she wanted me to add her maiden name as a second middle one. I told her that I would need time to think about it but didn't really want to do it. I explained that I have "traditional" values and really just didn't feel comfortable with doing it. We've been fighting a lot lately and this was brought up again. She told me she made a sacrifice by changing her name and that I should be willing to do the same. I told her that I understood her viewpoint and that I am willing to do it, but that hasn't been good enough. She wants me to WANT to do it. I told her I didn't want to do it, but that I would do it for her. She's the only reason I would do it. I understand that she wants me to be really excited about adding her maiden name to mine, but the truth is I'm not excited about it, but I am willing to do it. I feel like she doesn't understand my viewpoint at all. Do you have any advice? She's told me basically that I am awful for not wanting to do it. Am I? She also called me a sexist, for which I definitely am not. I'm willing to do it to maker her happy, but it doesn't get me excited like she wants it to. ANY advice would be much appreciated. Thanks....
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