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kwillis1 · 04-09-2012, 02:51 AM

[QUOTE=KanDo;669015] he had no problem in January when we discussed me continuing my education.. he said I should "do what makes me Happy" and he "already makes enough to pay the bills.." the problem I guess should be that he has adopted a champagne taste on a beer budget while I'm in school. Ontop of this he promised to work to afford his new truck, he isn't and my parents had to pick up the slack, he also had a medical lien on his wages this month that came back to bite him bc he was irresponsible.

We had a rational discussion in Jan and agreed that sacrifices would need to be made on both ends. I have kept my end of the bargain.. he spends what I'm saving. I also sunk $15k into paying off bad things on his credit over the summer. I made sacrifices for much longer than 3 months to accomplish that. He also believes that going to college is a waste of time and money and that "one day soon, having a college degree won't matter bc it will be construction trade workers that make the best money." Why can't he just be Happy for me, supportive, and understanding?

We talked about my education prior to getting married. My husband has said he has no aspirations. He wants to continue working for $10 an hour at his current job. He has no interest in furthering his education, adopting a healthy lifestyle with me, etc. He has also said that he wouldn't work extra hours if we have kids, that I would have to do that. He is 30, I'm 25. I don't believe he is responsible enough for children, and I'm not sure if I could raise kids alone while I'm still married.

04-09-2012, 02:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
kwillis1 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Fairmont, WV Posts: 15	[QUOTE=KanDo;669015] he had no problem in January when we discussed me continuing my education.. he said I should "do what makes me Happy" and he "already makes enough to pay the bills.." the problem I guess should be that he has adopted a champagne taste on a beer budget while I'm in school. Ontop of this he promised to work to afford his new truck, he isn't and my parents had to pick up the slack, he also had a medical lien on his wages this month that came back to bite him bc he was irresponsible. We had a rational discussion in Jan and agreed that sacrifices would need to be made on both ends. I have kept my end of the bargain.. he spends what I'm saving. I also sunk $15k into paying off bad things on his credit over the summer. I made sacrifices for much longer than 3 months to accomplish that. He also believes that going to college is a waste of time and money and that "one day soon, having a college degree won't matter bc it will be construction trade workers that make the best money." Why can't he just be Happy for me, supportive, and understanding? We talked about my education prior to getting married. My husband has said he has no aspirations. He wants to continue working for $10 an hour at his current job. He has no interest in furthering his education, adopting a healthy lifestyle with me, etc. He has also said that he wouldn't work extra hours if we have kids, that I would have to do that. He is 30, I'm 25. I don't believe he is responsible enough for children, and I'm not sure if I could raise kids alone while I'm still married. Last edited by kwillis1; 04-09-2012 at 02:58 AM.