I don't have any great advice about the name change, but I do have a lot of experience with trying (unsuccessfully) to persuade my husband to WANT the same things I wanted. It took me a long time, but I finally figured out that it was even better to know that he didn't WANT to do something, but was still willing to sacrifice what he wanted, and do something to make me happy!
(In case you're interested, I've written more about how I learned that lesson here:
Getting The Donkey to Budge)