Originally Posted by lovesherman
I'm sure the guys will be along soon to advise you, but here is my $.02.
Trying2figureitout used this approach and it didn't work. His wife was only too happy to have him stop pestering her for sex.
I think that a better method would be Tall Average Guy's--stop doing things that she likes. Stop saying I love you, stop helping around the house, stop spending quality time with her. Whatever her emotional needs are, stop meeting them.
The idea is to get her to feel what it is like to not have needs met in your marriage. Don't be a jerk about it, but tend to your own interests without worrying about what she thinks.
However, it can't hurt to be the best man you can be. Confident, sure of yourself, and attractive to women. Show her what she has to lose.
I am doing most of that as well
all except helping around the house, in fact I have upped my input on this front, but with a difference, prior to this I was seeking approval all the time, now I just get on with things if she does not like the way I do it, tough, it's also quite liberating for me to do things on my own terms not in terms of will she be happy and give me sex or reject me, it was the last sex we had a couple of days ago that convinced me that this has to stop, I have a life waiting for me outside all of this