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GAsoccerman · 04-09-2008, 01:26 AM

Well you did not disclose that, I guess the difference between me and my wife and you both is we Trust each other.

How longg have you been married? how old are you guys? My wife and I have been together 18 years, married 11 dated 7 years. Now, we went to College in different states, I went to School in Montclair, NJ she went to school in Pittsburgh, PA. So we are talking a long distance relationship for 7 years!

We had no choice but to trust each other, I had friends flipping out, saying man she is probably cheating on you....and I would simply say, well we are not married, I am not her keeper, if she wants to go off with someone else then so be it, But I learned to trust her and I could not worry about the "what if's in life, I worry about the What is" Did she fool around on me?? who knows...been married 11 years, it's a moot point, we have three children together and a very strong marriage because we trust each other.

Trust is a very powerful thing, jealousy can be cruel. My wife can go out with the girls if she wants to and flirt and dance with guys....I trust her to do the right thing, and I had never had to worry, she rarely goes out anymore, she rather go with me.

I guess you both have some issues to work out, bith seem very jealous and not trusting with each other, you need to strengthen that.

My wife get's hit on all the time, I take it as a compliment, so does she when women respond to my flirtatious behavior.

You just have to live with what you are comfortable I guess...best of luck to you, but I couldn't live that way, nor could my wife.

04-09-2008, 01:26 AM	#8 (permalink)
GAsoccerman Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Georgia Posts: 556	Re: He didn't come home Saturday night. Well you did not disclose that, I guess the difference between me and my wife and you both is we Trust each other. How longg have you been married? how old are you guys? My wife and I have been together 18 years, married 11 dated 7 years. Now, we went to College in different states, I went to School in Montclair, NJ she went to school in Pittsburgh, PA. So we are talking a long distance relationship for 7 years! We had no choice but to trust each other, I had friends flipping out, saying man she is probably cheating on you....and I would simply say, well we are not married, I am not her keeper, if she wants to go off with someone else then so be it, But I learned to trust her and I could not worry about the "what if's in life, I worry about the What is" Did she fool around on me?? who knows...been married 11 years, it's a moot point, we have three children together and a very strong marriage because we trust each other. Trust is a very powerful thing, jealousy can be cruel. My wife can go out with the girls if she wants to and flirt and dance with guys....I trust her to do the right thing, and I had never had to worry, she rarely goes out anymore, she rather go with me. I guess you both have some issues to work out, bith seem very jealous and not trusting with each other, you need to strengthen that. My wife get's hit on all the time, I take it as a compliment, so does she when women respond to my flirtatious behavior. You just have to live with what you are comfortable I guess...best of luck to you, but I couldn't live that way, nor could my wife.