Originally Posted by LauraF
It seems its all about sex. You will all attack me for saying this, but I am completely sincere in that it bothers me to some extent.
Sex is sex. You can have it with almost anyone.
So where in all of this is the love? It sometimes sounds like a woman is a woman is a woman, as though she were a means to an end.
Yeah,, sex is great, the more the better.
But there must be more to relationships than sex, even to men, and all I hear is: "Whatever we do, we do it to get in your pants."
That's an ugly truth in my eyes. It diminishes what I think love should be like, which is a true connection between two people.
Not smoking mirrors (what men say and how they act) do get you to do something (put out and shut up)
As a women, I have never looked at sex like this in my marriage. Neither has my husband.... sex is NOT just sex, sex is "Making Love" ....my husband will not even refer to it as "sex", that is how strongly he feels.... There is a very moving spirited well of emotional sharing that floods us when we are together in each others arms , it has the power to uplift me on high....like nothing else... something profoundly sacred about it.
I always find it very sad when I read how others view sex like this .....JUST SEX... I can not relate to this. Never had that experience.
You might be able to have it with JUST ANYONE...but why would you want too? This is diminishing it's beauty, I also feel it has the power to depersonalize our emotions when we are engaging without "feeling" behind this act, it takes a part of us.
For the perspective I am trying to relate .... please read some of my points here : What I will Teach my Daughter about SEX...in relation to LOVE, her emotions, her life
| 2. I will teach my daughter .....Sex is beautiful thing ...but it has it's place, there is a time & a season for such beauty... it is meant to be shared between 2 people who LOVE each other. There is no greater pleasure God has given us on this earth, no emotional BONDING that has more meaning -as the giving & receiving in this way, that this act has the awesome potential to Create NEW LIFE..... that it should never be used casually, or carelessly, because of this very fact, It carries the greatest of responsibilities with it. It is the awesomest of the AWESOME. I will refer to it as "sacred" even. |
What is the difference between making love and having sex What Sex Means to a Man Sex Is an Emotional Need -
| 8. I will teach my daughter there is a heavy EMOTIONAL side to sex.... Sex releases certain chemicals in our brains that change the way we think ...the hormones released work to bond us to our partner, it's like gluing two pieces of paper together. If you tried to tear those pages apart, the break wouldn't be a clean one. The same kind of thing happens when there's a breakup in a sexual relationship. These break ups can be as painful as mini-divorces. If this happens over & over & over, it has a way of de-personalizing our emotions. |