GAsoccerman

well yes anything between him and the therapist will not be told to you, therapist is not there to tell him he was wrong and you are right.

But sometimes just talking about it heals the wounds. Sometimes you need to tell someone your feelings besides your spouse in order to heal.

He feels like dirt allow him to pour it out to the therapist without you around.

With you there sounds like little johnny telling the Nun that he put gum in Mary's hair and she is standing over him with a Big A** Ruler ready to whack him.....

But telling someone else might get it out of the way for him. Plus maybe allow the therapist to help heal you.

They are experts follow their advice, give him the private session.