Originally Posted by canttrustu
Well thats a good thing to realize/admit.
Has to do with honesty and getting help. I realize that we need to look at ourselves as well as the WS to work through things if we truely want R. I gave up a lot of leverage in getting answers by my behavior and it can't be undone. I am hoping that I can use this in the future. When I feel the time is right I will say, hey, I screwed up by drinking and being real nasty to you, you told me to change or you will D me, I did and the proof has been shown to you over and over again, I called your brothers and admitted to being over the top with you, I talked to our sons, I said I was sorry and showed you by my actions that I meant it, but now I need you to come clean with all the gaps in your story. I will say that this is a two way street and you need to open up as well. But right now I just have to show her by my actions that she will not get blasted and that I can be a safe place for her like I use to be. But I will not let her off the hook but i need to do so with more tact.
Canttrustu, I wish things could be sped up for you.
You are a good girl, try to keep positive.