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bhappy3 · 04-09-2008, 08:42 AM

I didn't change my name when I got married 9 years ago, and still haven't. It's sometimes confusing when we do things on paper, like at the bank or whatever, but we don't love each other any less. It would be nice to share the same last name, but there is no way on this green earth that I will have his last name. His extended family has a not so nice reputation around this town and I do not want to be associated with it. Unfortunately our daughter has his last name and may suffer some of the repercussions his extended family has created. I would have no problem changing my name to almost anything other than what his is. It's just that he doesn't want to disrespect his parents by changing his name. He feels a little slighted by it, but like I said, it doesn't change the way we feel about each other or the way we do things, so it's really no big deal, we just have to assure the pencil pushers that yes, we are married.

That's my story, maybe it will give you some insight, maybe not. I wouldn't force him to do something he doesn't want to do or try to make him feel something he's not. This is pretty petty and there are a lot bigger things in life to cherish and be happy for. =)

04-09-2008, 08:42 AM	#7 (permalink)
bhappy3 Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 159	Re: Husband Name Change I didn't change my name when I got married 9 years ago, and still haven't. It's sometimes confusing when we do things on paper, like at the bank or whatever, but we don't love each other any less. It would be nice to share the same last name, but there is no way on this green earth that I will have his last name. His extended family has a not so nice reputation around this town and I do not want to be associated with it. Unfortunately our daughter has his last name and may suffer some of the repercussions his extended family has created. I would have no problem changing my name to almost anything other than what his is. It's just that he doesn't want to disrespect his parents by changing his name. He feels a little slighted by it, but like I said, it doesn't change the way we feel about each other or the way we do things, so it's really no big deal, we just have to assure the pencil pushers that yes, we are married. That's my story, maybe it will give you some insight, maybe not. I wouldn't force him to do something he doesn't want to do or try to make him feel something he's not. This is pretty petty and there are a lot bigger things in life to cherish and be happy for. =) __________________ :