| | Re: Married a Liar
Originally Posted by asullivan
I'm so tired of the lies. I've told him it makes me feel disrespected and like he really doesn't care for the marriage. I'm at witts end, I'm not sure if I should leave or go. He feels we don['t need counselling even though I have requested we go, since he believes that counselling will just be a bash fest on his part. I have admitted I have flaws of my own, that need work and have tried hard to continue to work on them.
So what is a girl to do?
You're right, he is not respecting you. He is not respecting your marriage. Lying is a choice. How can you ever trust him, if you don't know the truth about who he is? This is not a small problem. Everyone has flaws, but egregious dishonesty is not one that you should ignore in an intimate partnership.
You should tell him that either he can go to counseling or he can sign divorce papers. And you should be prepared to follow it through. I suggest being tough because it sounds like he won't listen otherwise.
"He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it." -Martin Luther King, Jr.
"“We first crush people to the earth, & then claim the right of trampling on them forever, because they are prostrate." -Lydia Maria Child.
Last edited by moxy; 04-10-2012 at 07:30 PM.