Originally Posted by nwguy111
Yes, I have felt for awhile that she's been losing interest. I offer her massages all the time. I'll fix a nice dinner, pour a couple glasses of wine, take her out for an evening, go for walks together, etc. Sometimes this works. Most of the time it doesn't. I never expect anything in return, but she always assumes there's a catch. I keep telling myself to be patient and kind, but it starts to wear on a person after awhile when they don't feel their needs are being reciprocated. At the very least, if she could show a physical attraction to me. This way, I wouldn't feel like she was simply servicing my needs every now and then.
Dude, this is NOT spicing it up!! Pull out a can of whipped cream or something and see what happens. Make it fun and NOT "goal directed" if you know what I mean. Love making can get horrifyingly routine if you don't change it! Don't stop the nice stuff, but try new things sexually. Look on line for ideas; askmen.com has some good stuff!