Originally Posted by luckycardinal
Maybe the take away point to all this is - if you're a woman be VERY DIRECT in telling your spouse what's wrong. He isn't a mind reader. If you're a man, listen to her and take her seriously unless you don't care and if that's the case, then tell HER.
Again, I don't think this is particular to just men (though that's who the OP was addressing). If either
spouse is that unhappy, they owe it to their family, marriage, and themselves as individuals to get it out in the open sooner rather than later. If everything festers and then the WS decides it's time to go, they run the risk of losing out on being happy in their current relationship. I think the WS doesn't even consider that the LBS was unhappy, too. The LBS just didn't find someone else.
Wouldn't it be better for both people to be happy, even if it takes work? That's the part about all of this that I just can't wrap my head around: the selfishness and tunnel vision of the cheating spouse. I would doubt that one really unhappy spouse married to a blissfully happy one is all that common.