Les Clue

Thanks to everyone for their advice. Last night we got in yet another big argument over this whole thing. She asked me if I WANTED to add her maiden name as one of my middle names, but demanded a "yes" or "no" answer. I told her I wanted to do it for her - that wasn't good enough. She used the example of one person saying to another, "Do you want to get married?" only to have the other respond, "I'll do it for you." I understand the point she is trying to make, but feel that they are in two different leagues. I explained that relationships are about compromise and sacrifice sometimes, and that we occasionally should do/have to do things we don't "want" to do. I personally don't WANT to add her maiden name as my own, but I want to do it for her. That wasn't an acceptable answer to her though - it had to be YES or NO. And if I say no, I know she will go out and drop my last name and take her maiden name back. I'd rather add hers. She's also already adding her maiden name to all three kids... she got really mad at me last night, but I don't feel like I'm doing anything wrong.....??????