Originally Posted by MizSmith
You can't. Your wife was over the marriage before the EA. He was just able to allow her to finally come out and express it. My Ex H just would NOT listen to me. He drove me insane swearing he knew I still loved him and was just acting out.
Please let me pick your brain a little since it seems my wife is in the same situation your in.
Why did you just stop loving your husband ? Did you express to him you were unhappy and he was unwilling to do or change. See, in my case, I have realize I was in the wrong and have changed my ways, but she is still set on it's over. Why ? If you loved someone so much, and they are trying to do everything possible to save the marriage, why give up ? Why insist that there is no love anymore ? Especially when I'm making changes in our marriage that benefit her, kids, and me.
You may be right about letting go, but I'm still not quite prepared to let go. Was your husband unwilling to make changes in your marriage ?