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Originally Posted by mollyL
Marriage is just full of places where give and take is needed. My husband does all kinds of things for me and/or the family that he isn't very pleased about; I do the same for him. We do it because we love each other and we enjoy pleasing each other. You guys could be so much happier if you all stopped posturing. How often do you use your middle name anyway? You never heard of using initials for middle names? Come on, there are so many simple ways to resolve this.
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I agree wholeheartedly with what you are saying. I also do things that I am not very pleased about, but I do it because she is my wife and I love her. That's not the issue. It's that I have made it perfectly known that I AM willing to do it, but she wants me to WANT to do it. I want to do it for her (not for me), but that's not good enough.
You are right - we bicker over everything. She suffers from a severe (diagnosed) anxiety disorder, of which only aids in all of the confusion/arguing. I posted here because she told me how ridiculous I am being. I think this whole thing is ridiculous and immature. But I am willing to do exactly what she wants, I feel the way I feel, and I'm trying to be honest with her about my feelings.