 Can a marriage succeed w/o sex?
I married by best friend at 21 and we've been married 7 years. Growing up together i always found her to be very attractive, but by the time we got married she had gained quite a bit of weight. She had started working out before the wedding to "look good" and i thought she would keep it up. In 7 years she has gained an additional 50 pounds.
We married as virgins and had never seen eachother naked. I wasnt sexually attracted on our wedding night and havent really been ever since.
This has recently become a big issue since my poor wife has had to beg me to make love to her for a number of years now, so i finally came out with the honest truth last week.
This wasn't the first conversation we've had about her weight being a problem with my attraction to her, but lets just say the last talk didn't go well and this time things are critical.
She's alway struggled with her weight and doesn't want to "do it for me"...
neither one of us are the "cheating type" and neither of us have been unfaithful...but it's getting tougher because now i know she'll never feel comfortable getting intimate knowing i dont find her body desirable. Personally i can probably get by on masturbation...but she's at a sexual peak and wants intimacy...
my question is where can we go from here? I love my wife to death and cant imagine life without her, since we've been best friends since age 12. Can a marriage succeed solely on friendship?
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