Originally Posted by jectruc
Things could get a whole lot worse.
People that give advice that says "in a pathetic attempt to get him or her back and fix the marriage, you must kill the affair and destroy the OM or OW's life!" have obviously never been through a high conflict divorce.
Get a neat, clean, peaceful divorce and cut your losses. Don't rile up the enemy with useless shots over their bow.
The problem here is there is no "Neat clean Divorce"
There are 4 kids involved and the four adults involved are going to have to have a a relationship for the rest of their lives.
This affair relies on secrecy and being an added extra.
Exposure just brings the relationship into the light. This is fair on everyone including the affair partners, because at the moment..
- Both AP are lying to their children
- One AP is lying to his wife.
- One AP is attempting to have both.
After Exposure all parties can make decisions based on the reality of the situation. Not this little Paris in Spring time fantasy.