Originally Posted by Lon
LM, learning those details sure is heartbreaking. What should make you wonder, if you had that level of detail when you first discovered this would you have still been able to offer R? For me, when I saw the texts and the photo of her with him, just the candidness and intimate way she wrote and the sparkle in her eye, were things I thought were always reserved for me... as soon as I saw that I felt absolutely nothing special for her in my heart, nor have I felt anything special for her since. As your W has been willing to do everything you have asked since dday, and seems genuinely remorseful, do you recognize anything special in that, because going forward in time your whole relationship will now be based on the time since - like losing all your old photos in a fire, all you have is the new photos you make, kind of like a clean slate if the remorse is true.
I would rather have found this out in the beginning, on DDay. Instead its like trickle truth but of my own making. The "love of my life" (her words) definitely set me back. I know exactly where you're coming from about the special feelings you thought belonged to you that she gave to him. Its like everything is tainted and now there are additional triggers. Posted via Mobile Device